Many years ago at a yoga class, a teacher asked a question; “would you ever speak to a friend, someone you love, or even a stranger for that matter, the way you speak to yourself?”
I thought about it for a few seconds and I started to get really uncomfortable. I started reviewing some of the things I constantly said to myself:
OMG you’re fat, you need to get on a program.
Oh man, why do you look so old today? Put on some makeup!
These jeans look horrible on you, you better find something else to wear.
Why did you say that? You always say the dumbest things.
Holy cow! It was the first time I had really considered how horrible my “self-talk” was. In fact, up until that moment, I really had no idea the emotional toll all of this negative self talk was taking on me. I know it sounds crazy – but I thought the way I was talking to myself was NORMAL.
It was a lightbulb moment for me and the beginning of LOTS and LOTS of work.
Have you ever met someone who radiates self love? Do you wonder what that would feel like? Debbie Ford paints such a perfect picture of it:
“When we love ourselves fully and freely, something magical happens. We teach others, without using words, how to love themselves. We become models of self-love–for our children, our family members, our friends, and our communities.
We teach them not only that self-love is a good choice to make, but that it is really the only choice. When we give ourselves the gift of self-love, all those around us are touched in our presence and feel deeper levels of love for themselves. Most important, when we love ourselves, we freely allow ourselves to experience the joys and gifts of this world. . . .”
I dream of a world where we all feel we are enough. A world where we can love all of our quirks, silliness, bad decisions . . you name it, we own it without apology. We live with the deep knowing that everything we have been through, good or bad, has made us who we are today and it was all a part of the bigger plan.
I’m not broken. You’re not broken. We are all a work in progress.
You are enough.
The next time the “itty bitty shitty committee” shows up and tells you differently, you can just laugh at them and tell them you know better.
Start right now by talking to yourself the way you would talk to your best friend. All day, every day.
When negative self talk shows up, you can catch yourself and replace it with something positive, and when you decide to do this . . .you’ll be amazed at how things begin to shift. It made a huge difference in my life and the way I feel every day.
How do you take care of you? What are the ways you incorporate positive self talk into your life? Do you celebrate your accomplishments? Give yourself permission to dream?
Feel free to share your tools for self love with me in the comments below, I’d love to hear them!